tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10795994.post6292966848736420322..comments2023-10-09T12:01:32.400-05:00Comments on Anger Management: What the Fuck is there to Investigate?MDBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05266773973228876357noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10795994.post-65869851615312571062009-03-30T00:42:00.000-05:002009-03-30T00:42:00.000-05:00Marcus, i don't really know what to say;I spent 6 ...Marcus, i don't really know what to say;<BR/><BR/>I spent 6 months in desert storm and spent the next 4-5 years trying to unlearn the live or die reactions I used there.<BR/><BR/>My older daughter became estranged and we have a rocky relationship still.<BR/><BR/>I do not trust people even to this day.<BR/><BR/>I have chosen to live alone because it is easier for me.<BR/><BR/>I can tell you a few things which did help;<BR/><BR/>Do not beat yourself up for what happened there.<BR/><BR/>I wasted a couple of years attacking "me" for those who were lost because I didn't do enough to save them.<BR/><BR/>Also do not expect anybody who hasn't been there to understand. they can not.<BR/><BR/>Don't apologize for your reactions either, they are real to you and need no explanation. Those who really care will take the time to understand, and those who won't do not really care enough. I know that is harsh but it is also very real.<BR/><BR/>As for your son, when things are finally over give him all the time you possibly can, it will not make up for the time you lost, but you can grow together, and he is still quite young, <BR/><BR/>By the time I was able to connect with my daughter she was a teenager and not really interested.<BR/><BR/>As for you and your wife, at least she can comprehend what you are dealing with, and you can comprehend her also.<BR/><BR/>Give each other space but be willing to be there, and with your son in the picture if you focus on what is truly important you could over come the lost time and waste of your lives by the dishonest people who started this war.<BR/><BR/>I hope the best for you and yours, just take it one day at a time, and be willing to give as much patience as you ask for.<BR/><BR/>Clifclifhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01789324243613548212noreply@blogger.com